.
Monday 30th April, 2007

Dream Life Action Plan: Part 1

A few people have pointed out that I ought to do something about the following issues which I have complained about on the blog:
Crowded on Oxford Street A street scene from London….

  1. Moving away from London.
  2. Making an effort to meet a man.

You are right: Action speaks louder than words. And in order to move closer to my Dream Life of the Future, I need to get cracking.

With regards to moving away from London; As you can imagine, this takes a bit of planning. I need to save a bit, so I can afford not to work for a few months while I get sorted out. (Better safe than sorry!) I also need a long term plan for how to support myself outside the world of corporate London.
Four leaf Clover A Lucky Break would be great!
I am working on both these things and I estimate that it will take about 6-9 months to get on top of them, depending on how much I can save per month.

Being a project manager I know all about ‘planning for the un-planned’, including contingency and setting achieveable milestones. (Perhaps I should do a Gantt chart for the whole project! ;-) )

Well my experience with planning makes me think the estimate I mentioned is realistic, unless I should have the fortune to get a lucky break! However, if you think I am missing something here, please let me know!

LUCKY BREAK: Do you live in a nice area somewhere in North America, Australia or Europe and do you happen to require an IT project manager?

Despite my previous ramblings on this topics (oops!) I am actually experienced, qualified and highly recommended.

I currently manage a £££mil pan-European order management system for a well known IT/Telco company. But I am not in the least fussy about what project I manage - and I really mean it!

If you’ve got something, please email me at Cordelia[at]vikingprincess.net and we’ll take it from there. (I can do web design/coding as well - this site should prove it. )

I am an EU citizen and can therefore work anywhere in the EU. I can also easily move to Australia as my father is a citizen (new, very proud) there… Not sure what the situation is with the US/Canada.

As for meeting a man; well I’ll cover that in another post!

Technorati Tags: , , ,, ,

Blink It
Monday 30th April, 2007

I, the “Feminine Rebel!”

I was so flattered and happy when I learnt that somebody has written an article about me on the very popular blog “Oz Conservative.”
What’s more, he had understood everything I said just right, and he turned my slightly rambling posts into something that sounds quite academic, really.

It was really amazing to read about myself in third person like that. Particularly in connection with a subject that I have never discussed with anybody outside of the internet. It was also rather cool to be called a feminine rebel!

This experience alone has made me very pleased that I took up blogging.

The article can be found here: “Feminine Rebellions”
Enjoy!

Blink It
Sunday 29th April, 2007

Web 2.0 - Examples and Explanation

The definition of Web 2.0 varies depending on who you ask. But it seems that everybody agrees that tagging, social networking, RSS, blogging, bittorrent and context sensitive ads are part of Web 2.0.

To summarize I suppose that you could say that Web 2.0 are the things that can help make the web a social place, where you can actually interact with others.
Web2.0 illustration This diagram attempts to explain Web2.0
That perspective should be compared to how the web was percieved during its first five years of existance (in the public sphere.)
During that period people came online to research, shop and perpaps participate in a forum.

Technologies and attitudes over the last five years or so has changed all that though. Active participation of users is now the most desirable state of things on most websites. Thats is what Web 2.0 is all about. Individuals. organisations and companies no longer wants to simply tell you things. They want you to get involved as well!

Below is a list of some of the most famous Web 2.0 sites today. I have left out some of the obvious ones that I expect you already know about; Wikipedia, Technorati, YouTube and MySpace….

Site Description

Wink
Search all the big social networking sites such as MySpace, Facebook, Bebo, Xanga, LinkedIn (and many others) in one go.

Much more practical than trawling through these sites one by one looking for your friends (or for a blog in a specific location or on a topic that interests you.)



Linked In
Social Networking for professionals. Recruitment consultants love it. It’s cheesy like you wouldn’t believe, but it actually is pretty good for getting head-hunted. I get a few quite relevant phonecalls every week, just from having an entry there.


Last FM
A community music site that offers you good quality streaming radio based on music that is recommended to you. The recommendations are based on what others with similar taste to you have liked previously. The site offers plenty of opportunities to make online friends and participate in groups based on music taste.


Pandora
Music selections streamed based on a computer’s selection. All music in Pandora has been analysed and categorised by the Gnome project. As you give the songs played the thumb-up or thumb-down, the Pandora software quickly learns what type of rythms you like, as well as what type of genres, lyrics, instruments and tonal scales please you.

Within half an hour, Pandora’s got your music taste all sussed out and is able to suggest new artists and songs that you are guaranteed to like. Well done Gnome - I love Pandora!



Flickr
Photosharing. Upload your photos, tag them and share them with the world. Anybody searching for ‘Paris’ will be able to find your snapshots of a certain tower…

The comment functionality allows people to let you know what they think - and they do, usually in an encouraging way. Flickr appears to be big among professional photographers and aspiring professionals. I currently don’t use it.



BTJunkie
Somebody researched all the bittorrent sites and found that this site is the most comprehensive. Personally I tend to use Torrentspy, Demonoid or The Pirate Bay though. In order to use the notorious bittorrent technology to download films, music and software you have to install a bittorrent client such as uTorrent.
Once it is installed, you simply visit a BT site, search for whatever it is that you want, click on the link and you are in business. In order to get a good performance, you need to do some tweaking though.


9Rules
A sort of ‘elite’ blog network. A blog that is considered for membership gets thouroughly scrutinized by the 9Rules team. The site can only join if it measures up to some farirly high standards. I would like to join but they currently don’t even accept new applications. There is no guaranteed that my site even measures up!


Del.icio.us
I didn’t use this “social” bookmarking service for ages because I thought the name was silly. But it is actually pretty good. If you can manage to find somebody with who has a great set of bookmarks, you can learn a lot on a rainy day… I haven’t used it to it’s full extent but lots of people swear by it. Timewaster warning!


Stumble Upon
Stumble will bring you to random sites, based on your interests. Tell this service what type of sites you would like to view, then sit back and click the ‘Stumble’ button in your browser’s toolbar as you surf sites that have been recommended by members. If you come across something that you don’t like, just give it a thumbs-down. Again, Timewaster warning!


Second Life
If this life isn’t enough for you, you can have a Second Life online. Why would you want that? I have NO idea, but lots of people do… The second life has everything that the first life has; love problems, fashion, private property, airports and a currency. Do I need to say Timewaster warning?


Mybloglog
This community site is about finding out more about the people who read your blog (see the ‘visitors’ section in the right-hand column. Alternatively, it lets you find out about those who read blogs that you like, such as here on this site.

By clicking on their picture, you can find out all about what their online likes and dislikes are, if they have their own blog as well as links to their pages on lots of other web2.0 sites.

It is not an intrusion of their privacy, since they get to decide what information is public and what is not. The service only works with people who signed up. I like the feature that lets me add a module that shows the last readers.



Pageflakes
Your personalised start or newspage. Lets you keep up with the activity on your favourite blogs and news sites without surfing around like a madman. Simply add the RSS feed from your favourite pages to Pageflakes and you can spot any updates to the sites from there.

A particularly nice touch is that you can create new tab pages for different topics. For example you may have one tab for blogs, one each for specific topics that interest you, and one for news weather and local events. Also check out Netvibes which does the same thing as Pageflakes.

Note: To use this site successfully you should understand the basics of RSS. There is nothing difficult about it - just look it up on Wikipedia.

Hope you found the list useful! Please let me know if I missed anything that you think is important, and I’ll update the list.
It took me some time and effort to research this a couple of weeks back and I hope that it will save sombody else a bit of time to see a comprehensive list instead of finding scraps or information here and there.

And finally: The ten commandments of Web 2.0 at Lohad’s site.
Technorati Tags: ,
,,

Blink It
Sunday 29th April, 2007

“If I HAVE to lose my Virginity…”

I was investigating Swedish blog directories and visited “Tjejsajten” [translation: The Girls’ Site]. I was thinking about possibly adding my own site to their blog directory. But I first wanted to get a feel for the blogs listed there.
Tjejsajten Scene of the ‘crime’… Nice site though…
It was quite a mix, but it is safe to say that Shopping and Relationships were by far the most popular topics! I haven’t added my site yet. I am not sure it fits in, and besides, the site is 100% Swedish language only. For the time being I am blogging in English.
Anonymous May or may not
be the same girl

Well, in order to check the site out, I clicked on some completely random links. One of the links surprisingly took me to the pages of a rather junior member of the site; a 14 year-old girl who lives in one of the largest towns in Southern Sweden.

I got so touched and upset when I noticed the following entry on her blog: (translated from Swedish)

…If I HAVE to lose my virginity, I would at least want it to be to somebody who has some feelings for me, not just somebody who is horny…

Isn’t that awful?! Why does she feel that she should “have to” lose her virginity at all?

In my ‘expert’ ;-) opinion, most teenage boys cannot differentiate between sexual feelings and actual love! (I think some men stay that way all life by the way.)

Her odds of finding somebody who ‘has some feelings” for her should therefore be pretty good… But I would guess that the second part of her sentence will play in too, equally strongly…!

Why, oh why do we live in a society where a nice, sweet, intelligent girl feels that there is something wrong with her being a virgin at 14?

  • What if she gets pregnant? Then she’ll be in an awful dilemma, having to choose between being a single teenage mother and having an abortion.
  • What if she gets some horrid disease? Then she’ll start off her sex-life in the most off-putting and depressing way!
  • What about when he dumps her for the prettier/cooler/more experienced girl next door? How much more awful won’t she feel about it?
  • Or perhaps it is she that discovers that he wasn’t really the guy for her after all. She’ll feel a right idiot then, having lost her virginity to someone she doesn’t even fancy!
  • And what about the fact that it actually hurts quite badly to loose your virginity? The very best man to share that experience with is your husband!

    (I suppose there are some more or less socially and politically correct alternatives, such as a man who you are in a ‘committed relationship’ with.) But really, it is an important event, a milestone for any woman. This young girl seems to be about to take the step without realising she is actually giving away a precious part of herself forever.

(Personally I gave away that part of myself at 19, to an (admittedly) very handsome Israeli soldier whose name I have forgotten. It hurt like crazy and I regretted my ‘decision’ to ‘get rid of’ my virginity before the act was even completed. I managed to ‘hold out’ for the duration though…I still remember how I had to force myself not to cry out. Oh horror!

I couldn’t blame it on the guy though. He had no idea I was a virgin and I never let on…The blood didn’t come until the next day. Bear in mind though though, that I had grown up thinking that virginity was outdated and undesirable. I was convinced it was necessary to loose my virginity before I turned 20…)

The girl’s blog entry was posted in February and she has not updated her blog since…. I wonder what happened? Perhaps it is already too late, but I wrote this message to her: (translated from Swedish)

Sweetie, please don’t go losing your virginity just because you are under the impression that it is uncool to remain a virgin.

It really is quite the opposite; it is cool to value yourself enough not to let anybody get that intimate with you until he has TOTALLY convinced you that he is worthy. Honey, you are both clever and pretty!

Teenage guys really mainly want one things from girls… Why should a great girl like you waste that on some idiot who is likely to dump you for another conquest a few months from now? Or why waste it on somebody whom you may very well find useless a few months from now?

Please try to hang in there with the virginity until you are at least 20. At that age you can make a more adult and mature evaluation of the situation. Trust me, EVERYBODY I know wish they had waited until then.

Also, think about how pleased and proud you will be that you waited, when you meet that great man who may even be your future husband… He is guaranteed to be impressed and will end up with much stronger feelings for you because of it.

I have experienced what she is experiencing. The attitudes were more or less the same then (approx. 1990) as they are now. All that’s changed since then is the arrival of the internet and reality TV…

Anyway, I think such attitudes are wrong! This girl is not a slut, she is a ‘victim’ of sorts, of a very skewed culture.

What do you think?

Technorati Tags: ,
,,
,
,
,

Blink It
Saturday 28th April, 2007

Dream Life of the Future

This entry is a day-dream. It is written to sound like it’s going on right now, but really, it’s just fantasy. A real day in my life is more like this.

I live in the countryside, far away from the stress and crowds of the big cities. My husband and I have a lovely house that is spacious and comfortable but not ostentatious. I have decorated it to make it cosy, inviting and stylish.
Rural garden
The house has several ecological features and is environmentally sound. It is well-insulated and has some solar panels on the roof. Our garden contains vegetables that are appropriate for the climate. There are fruit trees various bushes with berries. I harvest it all and save it for cooking.

Oh, I haven’t talked much about my (dream) husband yet. He is a great man. I love him to bits and admire him a lot. I trust him completely and he is so clever. He is taller than my 5’10” and has a great smile when he is happy. His looks are neither here nor there. I love him for who he is.

He is a man who has tons of integrity. He has work ethics and personal ethics. He does what he says he is going to do.

Since getting to know him I have lost my old attraction to doing ‘naughty’ things. I used to like having a spliff at parties, having a cigarette when I felt stressed, or shoplifting cheap stuff to avoid queuing to pay. But I want my husband to be proud of having me as a wife, so no more of any of that stuff!

When he touches me he makes me feel in a way that no man ever has. I didn’t use to care much for sex before him. It wasn’t difficult to keep to adhere to my (relatively) high moral standards with regards to sex as I simply wasn’t even tempted very often. But since I met my husband I have got quite into sex and often can’t wait for him to get home when he is away!
Dream House Is this the house? I loved the picture…
I know what type of clothes he finds attractive and sexy and I often choose those types of clothes on purpose. He is my husband and I can be as seductive as I want with him since it’s legit in the eyes of God…

My husband has plenty of interests that I don’t share. It’s mainly blokey stuff that I don’t mind him doing, but that I don’t want to participate in myself.

That’s great; it gives me time to do things outside of the relationship, which I like. I was never one of those ‘glued-to-my-man’ kind of woman. When he is off doing these things, I spend time with my female friends, look after myself or organise my house and work on some cool and somewhat profitable Web2 projects. I am able to make a bit of money on an online business. I have also become something of a Domestic Goddess and I find that very fulfilling.
CyklRiding the bicycle on rural roads
We have really interesting neighbours in our area. Some are countryside people who have lived there all their lives. Others are old city-dwellers, who have come here seeking a different lifestyle.

Since moving here I have got to know some great people; I am now in a sewing circle, and sometimes help out with community matters. I also baby-sit and am part of a nice church. Finally I have time and energy for female friendship, and there are some really nice women around. A few times I have taught IT in the local school. It’s great to finally be part of a community.

My husband supports our family (currently only him and me, but guess what – I just found out that I am pregnant! Can’t wait to tell my husband, but how do I tell him and make it really special? )

I support him back in every way that I can, making sure that he has a nice home to relax in and that he gets healthy and tasty food to eat. Whenever he needs me I am there. When he doesn’t need me… I do something else! I listen to him and try to be as supportive as I can when he talks about his work. I am so proud of him, he is doing really well and I lack for nothing. I know he’ll make a very good father when the day comes.

We live near the water,
something that means a lot to me. My husband is thinking of buying a boat and I can’t wait for it to happen so we can go boating. I don’t mind whether it will be a motor boat or a sailing yacht, either is great.
Cats on a jetty Down by the lake….
Our house is surrounded by trees and wildlife. There are some great trails around and I often go hiking, running or looking for berries and mushrooms.

I keep my bicycle for riding to the shops, but sometimes I drive; I have finally managed to get a driving licence thanks to the patience and support of my husband. Not a day too early. I can’t believe it took me so long to learn to drive; now it seems so easy! Our car is environmentally friendly.

Oh, I’ve got to go – my husband is on his way in with some wood that he’s been out chopping. We’ll lit a fire in the fireplace tonight – can’t wait to cuddle up in front of the fire and hear about what he’s been up to today. The sun is sinking below the horizon and another blessed day is coming to an end. What a charmed life I lead! ;-)

Technorati Tags: ,
,,

Blink It
Thursday 26th April, 2007

My Indian Team!

I, Cordelia, a Scandinavian girl, have on my team no less than 12 Indian guys!

They are based outside Bangalore, India and are working on my project! There are also three Indian guys who work on my project and are based here in London. (Those are the most senior team members.)

Why have we got this odd set-up? You guessed it – Indian labour is cheaper than British - much cheaper! (but equally qualified…)
Infosystems The Impressive ‘Campus where my team members work….

Growing up in Sweden until my early twenties, I had practically never met anybody from India. (Granted, there were some Indians in Singapore where my father used to live. But I never knew them, just ate at their restaurants.)

Here in England there are plenty of people of Indian origin. But most of them were born in the UK and there really isn’t much that differentiates them from any other British person.

When I first walked into my present employer’s office in the City of London, I was really surprised at how many brown-skinned people worked there. Really, one in four or so is actually Indian! It certainly stood out from what you’d expect in a London office. I remember thinking “Gosh, they must be doing some kind of reversed discrimination here…. “ Pretty stupid thing to be thinking, but I was really surprised.

Then I was told about the set-up whereby my company has a large part of it’s infrastructure located in India. I hadn’t picked up on that in the interview actually.. In addition, my company is using one of the largest Indian consultancies for further outsourcing. People from the offices in Delhi and Bangalore regularly come over from India and work for a few months in the UK.

With a completely straight face my manager told me that I must get signed up for the “India Cultural Awareness” three-day training course. My boss isn’t exactly politically correct most of the time. So I thought he was just being silly at first. But this is genuine corporate course, run by HR. It teaches about Indian languages, traditions, the caste system and many other things that most Europeans have a very sketchy knowledge of, at best.

Jacob , my boss, was adamant that I must attend, but then dumped enough work on me to make sure that it was completely impossible to fit it in. As a result the actual Indian lady who runs it came to see me and was very concerned that there was no time for me to do the course. Jacob then assured her that “Cordelia will be going to India on business soon anyway and then she can learn all that stuff when she is there” The trip has yet to materialise though!
Indian Slum….meanwhile outside Bangalore….
At first I was really struggling to understand the Indian accent of my team members. For that reason I was really reluctant to call people in India… With some people, I couldn’t understand more than about half of what they said! When I mentioned it to somebody, they said; Actually, they can’t understand us wither. The Indians just have a different intonation that any European would have… The way they speak sounded a bit ‘robot-like’ to me at first. It took a while to get used to, but now it is much easier. Still, some people sound incredibly grumpy! Their vocabulary is as good as mine, or better – the only difficulty is the intonation.

The number of Indian team members based in the UK was larger when I started than it is now. But some of the Indian guys didn’t like it here and actually requested to be sent back to India! I suppose that’s understandable – the British weather is awful beyond words and housing here is pretty bad unless you make a very good living.

Jacob my boss claimed that they have a really excellent lifestyle there, much better than we have here. (Good for them, if it is true!) However in the UK they get very little for their money. I wouldn’t know – it sounded like he was exaggerating. Surely ordinary programmers don’t have gardeners and maids!

However these guys have no shortage of top-notch electronic gadgets, designer shirts, expensive watches and the rest of it, actually. They may be the ‘cheap’ labour, but there is nothing cheap about their appearance! (I don’t actually know how that works out actually. If we only pay £150 as a daily rate for a consultant based in India, then the guy in question would be lucky to get half of that in his paycheck… (I ‘got’ a third of my rate when I did consultancy.) So how is he able to afford luxury European consumer goods such as Swiss watches and Italian shirts with an income of less than £75 /day? I must be missing something… Glad for their sake that they’re able to afford this kind of stuff though.
Bollywood Romance Romance, Indian Style: I like it!
(And aren’t ’saris’ sexy?!)

From a project management perspective there are mixed benefits with the outsourcing setup. The cost of labour in India is something like 1/4 of what the exact same resource would cost in the UK. This is of course very welcome when budgeting. But time differences, cultural differences, infrastructure problems etc makes the setup logistically difficult at times. When you most need to speak to somebody they may not be in the office. You can not walk over to somebody’s desk and have a serious conversation with them. Everything is done over email or telephone.

There also seems to be a much higher incidence of illnesses and miscellanous other family emergencies happening with Indian team members than with others. The family emergencies also seem to take a lot longer to sort out. When you least need it, somebody jets off to India for reasons that are never very clear. Although I sympathize, as any normal person would, that doesn’t make the impact on my project any less. I found that Indian family emergencies is something I have to keep a backup plan in order to be able to handle. I have to admit that I find it irritating.

There are lots of funny mix-ups as well. The guys in India didn’t at first realise that “Cordelia” is my first name. Several people wrote me emails starting with ‘Hello Neumann…’ We probably mix up their names quite badly too though!

The English team members say they ideally want to shorten Indian names (like using ‘Jay’ for ‘Jayanthkumar’ etc). But they don’t actually do it, as they fear it may be rude. (Second-generation British Indians our own age accept that without any problems.)

As the Indian guys on the team are all around thirty, many of them are currently looking to get married!
I am fascinated by their structured and scientific way of finding a wife. Very cool! It seems a bit rude to probe, but I hope to find out more about how they are getting on when we go out for a team dinner shortly.
(Gosh, I wouldn’t mind it if somebody else introduced me to a ‘fully compatible’ guy the way that seems to be happening in India… )

It is also fascinating to think that the whole caste system thing is going within the Indian group, [correction, it is not: see comment by Gana] and that I am completely oblivious to it. My English team members have known the Indian guys longer and have revealed that ‘such-and-such’ is a really low caste, but ‘such-and-such’ is a high caste….It means nothing to us though, of course, but it’s fascinating.
Carpet India Indian Fabric, Textiles, Carpets….Gorgeous!
I really wouldn’t mind it if I was able to go out to India for business. My own company’s offices are in Delhi and the consultancy that we use are outside Bangalore in an incredibly cool ‘campus’ where customers are apparently driven around in little golf-carts. Very funky! Indian culture is beautiful and fascinating. I love the fabric, textiles and carpets.

Well, as things are turning out – the Indian team are not as alien anymore as they first felt. I have got to know several of them well and we can have a good laugh together. I suppose the language of IT is fairly universal.

I am not sure what I think of the whole ‘outsourcing to cheaper countries’ concept. I wonder whether it bothers the Indians to know that they are essentially the ‘cheap labour?’ On the whole, I suppose it must be a good thing that these jobs are being created in India. But where is this trend leading?

For the time being I am trying just to enjoy working with this fascinating group of people and not worry about the bigger picture. I have learnt a lot from the whole experience already and I really like my Indian team.

Blink It